And…I’m Over It

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Ladies, there comes a point in your life when you are just completely over it. Sometimes you’re so over working that 9 to 5, relationship statuses, and even your natural hair. Yes, it can happen. It happened to me. Let me explain. I started out with so much excitement and energy for my natural hair. I had a new style that I wanted to try every day. Then the day came where I was just over it. Basically, life happened. I am a mother of two and the day to day life was starting to wear on me. I didn’t want to spend so much time on my hair anymore. I was tired and I was just done. Has that happened to you? Well, good thing you’re not alone in this. I have a few tips for you that can help you during this rough patch.
Tip #1: Remember why you returned natural. Whenever you decide to make a lifestyle change there will be times when you just don’t want to do it anymore. It can seem like you may not ever get used to that hair routine you desire. I encourage you to take a step back and really examine the reason you even started your journey. Going down memory lane could help boost your attitude towards natural hair. My daily reminder will always be my children. The way my daughter gushes at the sight of her curls, makes me smile. The way my son rubs his tiny hands through my hair because he loves the texture, completely melts my heart. So, this helps me stay focused on what I set out to do.
Tip #2: YouTube it. Hey, you remember all those tutorials you looked through when deciding if you even wanted to return natural? There were some sleepless nights for me. I can easily remember watching 6 or 7 tutorials in a row. It was the inspiration I needed. I felt the sense of community watching all of these beautiful ladies try this style or use that product. I can honestly say that I don’t watch them as much as I used to, but whenever I need a bit of inspiration I will pull up a tutorial. Often times we get busy with life (sooo normal) and we just forget about the websites, bloggers, or vloggers. My suggestion is just to pull up a quick tutorial. I guarantee there is a new style you will want to try. Get inspired!
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Tip #4: Weigh the pros and cons. This is old school, but this is a method I had to use when I first decided to return natural. Returning natural, can be a big decision for a lot of women. If you’ve just reached the point where you feel yourself about to break, pull out that notepad. Go back and weigh your options. Everyone’s list will not look the same. I personally didn’t have too many cons on my list, but the main one I had was the emotional trauma. The need of social acceptance and society’s view of beauty weighed heavily on my mind. That is the reason I started to blog about the emotional journey, because I know I’m not alone. Neither are you.
Tip #5: Find your place. What I mean is find your place in the natural hair community. There are so many people that you can connect with and talk to. Having that sense of community will keep you motivated. If you have a story to tell, just write about. Somebody needs to hear it. You may be able to help other women returning natural or encourage those who are transitioning. Either way, you won’t be alone.

Pamela Coleman is originally from Jackson, MS. She received her B.S. degree in Mass communications from Jackson State University. Deciding not to write for the city newspaper, Pamela wanted to pursue a different passion. After relocating to Texas and now Minnesota, Pamela has found herself in a unique position. Now, a stay at home wife and mother of two, Pamela started blogging about her mental and emotional journey of returning natural in hopes to reach others (curlsandwhatknots.wordpress.com). Her goal is to help as many women and men uplift the natural community and change a mindset that has been passed down for generations. Her daughter was her sole inspiration for returning natural and soon her son inspired her to tap into the mental state of young black boys and their views on the natural community. Understanding she is taking the non- traditional approach, she has decided to homeschool her children with the support of her husband, family, and friends. A novelist by heart, Pamela is also in the process of releasing her first children’s book and novel in 2016. After returning natural, starting a blog, and going vegan, Pamela is now leading the life she feels was purposed for her.

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