My Natural Hair Journey…The Male Chronicles
I know a lot of naturals, who are not married, can be concerned if men will be attracted to them. There are also a lot of women who want to return natural, but aren’t sure what their boyfriends will think about it. What about the married women? Are we just to assume that our husbands love our hair because it’s us? I mean they married us right? For better or for worse? In sickness and in health? Through relaxed or natural?
Well…you’d be surprised what a lot of married men have to say about the natural hair movement and the effect is has on them as husbands. Not all are for it, but not all are against it either. I’ve decided to start a series of interviews. These interviews will reflect the views of men who are either married to a fully natural woman, a woman who is transitioning, or a woman who is thinking of returning natural. Not all men think alike ladies and they hold nothing back. First up…okay, so I won’t reveal their names because part of the deal with them being completely honest with me is that I don’t. I will give out initials though. This first married man is named T.B.O. (the blunt one!) Are you ready?
I’m sure you’ve noticed an overwhelming increase in African American/black women returning natural. Why do you think that is? I think it’s a fad. Everything comes and goes in cycles. Hope the Jheri curl never comes back. –T.B.O.
Do you have any friends or family that have returned natural? Yes. My wife, sister, and sister-in-law. –T.B.O.
How do you feel about the natural hair movement in general? Honestly, I feel like it’s a good thing. Because we, as black people, have been taught to shame everything that is natural or the way we have been created. We’re geared toward more of the European style…from the way we dress to the way we wear our hair. It exposes a beauty that black people have long forgotten that we had. –T.B.O.
Do you believe, as many others do, that this movement is just a fad? Yes, although it may not be gone in a couple years. After the older generations pass, the younger ones might say “hey we don’t do it anymore” –T.B.O.
What do you think about the overall appearance of natural hair? It can look nice. If hair is properly washed and you apply the right maintenance. I like the stuff used to make it soft and smell nice. I like people who take pride in their appearance. The big chop is not an attractive act for me though. I don’t like that, but I do understand that it is part of the process. –T.B.O.
Do you believe natural hair should be limited to those with “good hair”? We all have good hair. –T.B.O. (My favorite question and answer!)
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Do you feel, as a black male, that you have an influence on the natural hair community? No, I don’t. If I talk to other men who are also in the same situation (with their wives going natural) I would let them know that it will be okay and the process is beautiful. (****** insert wife’s name) doesn’t think I notice. I notice all of the things that my wife does to her hair, all the time she takes to make it look nice and smell nice. –T.B.O.
So if you and your wife have a little girl, would you allow her to wear her natural hair or would you prefer her to have relaxed hair? My daughter’s hair would depend on what my wife does with her hair. I wouldn’t force her to get a relaxer though. –T.B.O.
Do you like the natural style of hair or the natural state of hair? Most women I see that are natural have nice looking hair. There is nappy vs. natural though. –T.B.O.
Well…y’all still here? I don’t think this interview could have gone any better. I appreciate this man’s honesty. The other interviews will be on the way and it’s so important to value their opinion as men. Let’s all be nice. Send your comments or questions my way. Anything you want me to ask, just let me know.
